September 12, 2020
Solo female travel is really a great thing and I am going to break it down for you why!
Updated December 2020
Anybody!!! Solo female travel is easy especially when your in your 40’s! Single or Not! Mother or Not! Introvert or Extrovert
This PNW Mom of two teenage daughters took my first female solo trip in August of 2019, and I loved it! It’s now my passion, and high on my bucket list for future adventures. Now that I am hooked and feel the need to spread the word. Let me share my experience with you, and try to convince you to consider being a solo female traveler yourself! Yes! Just do it! It is life altering. It’s easy! Come to the dark side.. we have chocolate and cocktails.
There are several reasons why you should consider a solo female over 40 trip, girls…. it is perfect for us! If you are content being on your own and have the self-confidence to do it, it is the best . You get to really know yourself in the processes and helps you grow as a person. If your tempted just try an overnight, you will not regret it, probably LOL!
You will miss your family, but you won’t miss not being responsible for anybody but you. It is the cold hard truth. You will not miss the fun around the house, the need to make dinner or pick up after anybody.
It was not a hard decision to take the jump to do my first solo trip. Victoria is just a couple hours away from home. I did cross a border so that made it a little more exciting. I would highly suggest starting small and stay somewhat local, which is what I did.
This 40 something mom just made a spontaneous decision and this particular solo trip was not planned. I decided the day before to do it. My family was on a father/ daughter camping trip to Yellowstone, so I brainstormed close locations. I had just got my passport for Asia and wanted to test out the new eBag luggage I ordered. I thought for a minute I was going to backpack to Asia for 2 weeks… (Side note – glad I did that, I did My solo trip was not planned, and I only decided the day before to do it.
My family was on a father/ daughter camping trip to Yellowstone, so I brainstormed close locations. I had just got my passport for Asia and wanted to test out the new eBag luggage I ordered. I thought for a minute I was going to backpack to Asia for 2 weeks… (Side note – glad I did that, I did not just take my backpack to Asia). I decided to go to Victoria B.C. Canada because it was close, and I get to take a Ferry there ( I have a Ferry Obsession)!
I was nervous about going solo at first. It is a new thing for me. After I was able to find accommodations and figure out how I was getting there, my nerves turned to excitement.
In February I went to Bali Solo, part of the time I was attending a course and the other part of the time I was solo, doing work and visiting my happy place in Ubud. Since the original post I have updated about Solo travel and included International. You can read about how I SOLO trip in Bali in a future post.
I will continue talking about Solo travel with tips, what to take, and how to pack. Since then I have taken a solo trip to Bali for 3 weeks, and it was amazing. I’m now a solo travel addict.
It is not possible to go too often being I am a mom, but I have many other solo trips planned after the empty nesting happens. It would be nice to actually go to some of these faraway places with the hubs, but he is not into international travel. I am not into staying at home, and he is the kind of guy who can cook for himself and does his own laundry, so it works 🙂
Pick a place that you want to go and go. You should not do something or go somewhere because you do not have a travel partner! Sometimes having a travel partner gets complicated, and you have to work out the logistics, such as synching busy schedules, which can be challenging. I was able to put together my plans in less than 24 hours because my schedule changed, my family was on their own vacation, and I had sudden free time and extra funds, So why not!
I felt I was able to take on the sights more because when you do not have anybody to share the new experience with, you get to take in things you may not have taken in because of your visiting or chatting with friends and family.
My Airbnb was $37 a night ($11 cleaning fee) because I rented a room in a yoga teachers home. Round trip the ferry cost $38 from Port Angelas to Victoria! Only having to myself to worry about, I was able to eat and tour for cheap also. It is easy for one person to fit into an excursion, so I did everything spur of the moment, and it was great!
I am very sociable anyways, and if I had been with family or friends, I would have been less likely to meet some of the people who I ended up having conversations with. On the ferry, I met a lady who married a Canadian who is doing the long-distance thing until she gets her spousal visa with Canada. I also met a couple from California who was on their first time trip to Canada. I met a group of college students who were celebrating a birthday.
No matter who your travel partner is, you have to consider who you are with when it comes to activities. If you have kids, you certainly can not do a Pub Crawl with them, LOL! I literally walked the Port of Victoria with no plans and just did what I felt like doing at the moment. When I went to Bali (other than school), I made my own plans and never considered what worked for other people. Being on my own meant I do what I want. If I want to get on a swing in a rice field for the 10th time I will do it.
I had the option to visit with people if I felt the need, or I could keep everything on the down-low and enjoy taking in my surroundings. With our lives being hectic, peace and quiet are hard to come by, especially if you have kids. As soon as I go to read, relax, or do yoga, a child, husband, or dog needs something?!?! I was not responsible for anybody else for those days, and I only had to take care of ME. I admit it is a pretty unfamiliar and awesome feeling that I am the only person I need to be responsible for.
I just bought a backpack and was able to try it out. BTW side note – I am a fan. I am now fascinated by the fact that you can carry everything you need on your back. As I am attempting to live a minimalist life and it helps keeps what you need to a minimum, and it keeps the buying to a minimum as well.
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